Finding self and accepting self

Hey there, I hope you had an amazing week, Did you know I prayed for you to have one? If you didn’t it’s coming your way, God loves you.

So today we are going to talk about finding yourself and accepting who you truly are. Most of my agemates have a problem with this, they struggle to fit in somewhere, or feel like they need to be more like other people they see on instagram, among others.

Not only them, it could be you reading this blog today, guess what! I am here to help you.

First things first, who are you? What’s your name? What do you love doing?

What describes you? What defines You?

Too many questions, right? But have you ever asked yourself any of them?

If you have,

do you have clear answers to these questions? Well, if you don’t calm down! I am here to blow your mind and help you figure this out.

Here are different ways that can help you find yourself and accept who you truly are.

1. Accept yourself;

Acceptance is the ability to unconditionally value all parts of who you are. That means you acknowledge all of yourself–the good and the things that need improvement. For most of us, self-acceptance can be hard. We tend to be critical of ourselves, but there are a number of ways to learn to accept yourself and your life. It all begins with your state of mind.

Accepting yourself includes: knowing who you truly are, what can you do? What can’t you do, what can you afford to purchase in your life as an individual? Who are you? What are your weaknesses, strengths?

Do you know any of these?

2. Acknowledge your reality

Did you know that accepting your current situation can help you be happier in the present and it leads to a better future?

Understanding, accepting, and working with reality is both practical and purposeful. Acknowledging your reality will help you choose yourp dreams wisely and then help you achieve them.

3. Practice radical honesty
When you can admit your own pretense you can begin to powerfully create a new future. Denying your current reality–especially if it’s a bad one–will not make it make it go away. Dealing with the bad stuff is a way to get to the good stuff–but it takes practice, practice, practice.

4. Identify your part
To fully accept your reality, it’s important to acknowledge any role you may have played, good or bad, in getting where you are. Ask yourself questions related to your current situation to help work toward solutions. To fully accept your reality, it is important to identify what you may have done to foster success or failure. Once you know what you’re dealing with, you can work toward the best next steps.

5. Admit your mistakes
Remember that you can’t fix anything until you admit there’s a problem. Try to view your mistakes not as failures but as learning opportunities, and have the strength within to realize you control your reality and you’re the only one who can change it. Decide what’s important to you and set your mind to it.

6. Own your outcomes
Work toward owning every part of your realities–not just the things that need work but also your strengths and successes. Owning all your outcomes can help teach you to do better next time, to see failure as a learning moment.

Say to yourself each day, these are my strengths and I’m proud of myself, and these are my weaknesses how do I help myself? I failed at this, but is it the last chance I have in life?

I always tell myself silently, wow! Look at what you have achieved, wow you didn’t do this well but you can, I don’t let anyone belittle me.

A little trick I use, I don’t let any negative comments get to me and as a result I own my outcomes myself. Try it it’s a brilliant way to accept self and find self!

7. Don’t let fear get in your way
Don’t let fears–especially fears of what others think of you–stand in your way. You must be willing to do things in the unique ways you think are best, and to reflect on any feedback you receive.

A good friend of mine always says: I refer to myself as a “god” because what others think of me has never stood in my way.

This has helped this person achieve very many things in life, Do not be afraid of negativity, do your thing and accept all the feedback you receive and life will be amazing.

8. Count on your competences
It’s easy to look in the mirror and point out all your insecurities. But to face your reality, it’s best to start counting all positives. Make a list of your strengths, the things you are good at, the values that you hold, and the accomplishments you’ve achieved. Counting on your competencies helps you realize your strengths, which in turn will help you improve your attitude toward yourself.

9. Let go of your biases
Don’t get caught up in the life you think you are supposed to have, but work on creating the reality you are meant to live. Your biases can blind you to almost any reality. You can try to ignore them, but closing your eyes won’t make them disappear. Instead, learn to understand them and let them go.

10. Accept that struggle will always be part of our reality
Don’t shy away from challenges but wade into the struggle and get comfortable with operating and living there. Struggles are a way of life, and we have to learn to confront them. And you never know: sometimes the most challenging things can hold the greatest opportunity for success.

11. Make a plan for reaching your goal